Name::intricate pieces From::Wisconsin
I am a 33 year old mother of 2. Living to serve her Master and explore their journey together. View my complete profile
Master and I have been in the lifestyle for about 10 years now and during that time I have attended a lot of munches, gone to a lot of groups, and read my fair share of articles about limits. To be quite honest in the beginning I loved the thought of saying I had no limits… there was a rush I got by the thought of being totally and completely owned. Then I matured and thought a lot about what I would do, what I wanted to try, and what I wasn’t willing to do under any circumstance. ~ Waits for the collective gasps ~ Over the years as Master and I have grown together my "won’t do" list has become almost non-existent and my "will try" list has increased exponentially. This is typically common as the level of trust in a master slave relationship grows. So seeing the topic come up in blogville I thought I would toss my 2 cents out there and hope no one tosses back change. Limits are such a touchy subject because there are those that cling to the theory that in order to be a slave one is not allowed any limits other then the limits set by their Master. Then there are those that say yes I am a slave but I do have limits and there are just something I will not do under any circumstances. I personally see nothing wrong with either side as long as any and all actions fall into the category of SSC (safe sane and consensual). I am a huge huge huge believer that prior to accepting a collar communication on this very subject is a must. It is essential for the success of the relationship that a slave and a master discuss and establish each other’s limits so that once the collar is placed there are no surprises for either party. That being said I don’t think not having limits allows a slave to consider herself off the hook for choices that are outside the realm of SSC. I don’t think a slave should ever allow the statement that "I was only following my Master’s orders" to be a valid defense to any wrongdoing. Being a slave doesn’t give you the right to shut off your brain and follow like a blind sheep into a world of destruction. I also would never advocate a new relationship to be without limits and boundaries as this is something a couple should grow into. I like to consider myself a no "limits" slave within boundaries. I know that doesn’t make a lot of sense but the reality is there are simply things I will not do. Those activities typically fall under the boundaries of SSC (safe, sane, and consensual). I wouldn’t dream of telling my Master no unless I felt the situation was not safe, not sane, or not consensual. I don’t necessarily mean my consent but the consent of a third party. For example there are the age old question asked by those that try and out question you or shake the faith you have in your role and ask what if he ordered you to have sex with a child, animal (bestiality), or a dead person (necrophilia). To me this is an easy question to answer as a child, animal, or the deceased can NOT give consent thus it violates the core foundation of SSC. I have also had the opportunity to field questions, as far out as what if he wanted to amputate or alter part of your body. Again this would fall under the question is it safe? I can’t for see amputating anything as safe so again I would point out it violates the rules of SSC. All illegal activities also fall under this category as well… what if he ordered you to do drugs, rob a bank, steal from a store, or have sex with a stranger? All these activities are not safe and are prohibited in my mind by SSC. Does this make me less of a slave? Some say yes but I don’t believe so; I like to believe it makes me a responsible human with morals that can’t be shaken just because I have given myself to another. I always love those submissives who come back with the "then you aren’t a real slave because real slaves obey regardless… they aren’t given the opportunity to say no". To them I always point out that even hundreds of years ago if a slave thought their life to be in grave danger they in fact would run" why would I be any different if pushed into a place I felt my life was in jeopardy? What it comes down to is that fact that I know my Master well enough to know he would never ask me to do anything that violated any of the rules of SSC so therefor his limits are my limits and vice versa. So this has never nor will it ever be an issue for us but I still do have these guidelines in place and to not acknowledge them would be wrong and make me something I am not. I strongly encourage anyone entering a M/s relationship to be honest with themselves and how far they are willing to go and to find themselves in the same position with their partner before declaring themselves a no limit slave. I thought since I spent all this time talking about what I wouldn’t do I would share my list with you. No Children, no animals, no dead people, no non-consensual 3rd parties. No long time separation from family No separation from religion. Nothing illegal by state or federal law Nothing that would cause the loss or suspension of my nursing license. No permanent physical body damage i.e. amputation, bone breaking, internal bleeding, blood vessel damage, damage that involves loss of mobility or function, scarring, burning of the body, or dramatic loss of circulation, no deep tissue needles and or punctures.
Posted with His permission by IntricatePieces ~
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